Resisting Cult Involvement
Since leaving a cult is difficult, wouldn't you rather avoid joining one in
the first place? Just because you may be a prime candidate for cult recruitment,
doesn't mean you are defenseless. The following practical tips can help you
resist unfair persuasion. Many more strategies are discussed in Straight
Talk About Cults by Kay Marie Porterfield.
Remind yourself that even though you are smart, your intelligence doesn't make
you immune from recruiters. Admitting your vulnerability helps you keep your
emotional defenses raised and your thinking critical.
Take the time to become informed about cults by reading books and articles and
by watching TV specials.
Learn about spirituality and different religions. When you understand the
terms a cult recruiter uses, you are less likely to accept the recruiter's
explanations as correct.
Resist the social pressure to conform by remembering it is your right to say
no.
Practice critical thinking by looking for logical fallacies or flaws in
reasoning. If a cult recruiter presents you with a false dilemma, forcing you
to choose between two things like joining the group or going to hell, mentally
add another alternative to the equation -- none of the above.
Don't make life-changing decisions when you're hungry, tired, angry, feeling
sorry for yourself, or stressed out. We all have our weak moments. If a cult
recruiter puts you on the spot, tell that person, you'll get back to them
later.
Look for hidden agendas. If you have a sneaking suspicion that information
about the true purpose of what's happening is being kept from you, pay
attention to that feeling.
Ask sharp questions and don't settle for vague answers.
Recognize flattery and phoney instant intimacy. If the cult recruiter seems
too good to be true, beware.